Hey y’all, what’s up? 🙂
First of all…how’s your Inner Game goin’? Have you had the chance to work a little bit on it? What was your way to start working on it: was it sports, hanging out with the right people, another one, or more of them combined? I wouldn’t mind if you’d leave your comments about how’s your Inner Game going and how are you working on it, because honestly, I’m curious about it and it would make me feel very…comfortable and happy to know that this Inner Game thing is helpful for you and gives you some results. 🙂
Second…I chose to entitle my series of blog posts about dating and having women as “The Dating Game” because that is what it truly is: a game, you just have to see the fun in it and, most of all, learn how to play it THE RIGHT WAY. Also, you can’t play a game, at least not in a way to get you good results, if you don’t know its rules first, right? So, in this blog post, I’ll write as briefly as possible the rules you must comply with so you could play The Dating Game in the right way. I’ll get in more details with some of the rules, because many of them are not just some rules, but actual ESENTIAL PRINCIPLES you must get guided by while playing the Game.
Now, the first rule…
WORK ON YOUR INNER GAME
:))…yeah, I know…I don’t want to be annoying with this Inner Game stuff, but it is ABSOLUTELY NECCESSARY to work on it, so you could build a certain level of self-esteem and self-confidence before starting to play the Game. So, if this is my first blog post on the topic you are reading, you should read this first:
In fact, until you don’t read my Inner Game blog post and start working on it, you are not allowed to read this one or any of my future blog posts!
:)) Just joking, of course you can read them, but it is much healthier for you to start with the beginning. Face it like this: let’s say you must get from point A to point B by passing through 10 steps. You can’t successfully reach from step 1 to step 4 if you don’t pass through steps 2 and 3 first, and it is obvious that you can’t reach to step 10 from step 1, if you don’t pass first through steps 2, 3, 4, 5…and so on. The truth is that, in most cases, miracles are possible only with hard work and efforts, so you should take it like…one day at a time. 😉
Also, it is very important to note that the Inner Game is a very complex thing, that will change in better not only your dating and having women results, but your whole life, so it is a life long process. I mean, once you’ve started working on it, you NEVER stop doing it. This because, no matter how successful you might be with women and no matter how happy you might be with your life, it could all change very fast, so you should be mentally prepared for such possible moments. That’s why, the Inner Game is something VERY IMPORTANT and it is not something to be taken lightly.
Here comes rule no. 2:
PLAY THE GAME ONLINE FIRST
After you’ve worked a little bit on your Inner Game and you’ve reached a certain level of self-esteem and self-confidence, you can actually start playing the Game.
And how will you know that you`ve reached the required level of self-esteem and self-confidence, so you can be sure you are ready to start playing the Game?
Very simple: YOU WILL JUST KNOW IT, TRUST ME. 🙂 All you have to do is work on your Inner Game, and you`ll see how everything comes naturally to you. 😉
When you start playing the actual Game, you should do it online first.
Because all the reasons we can imagine:
– in the online environment you can’t be seen, or even better, sometimes you can see without being seen, or you can be seen only if you want to, but still can be able to communicate, so you can avoid all your embarrassing reactions that may occur at the beginning, like sweating a lot, shaking hands, trembling voice and so on;
– except the webcam methods available on the internet, the way to communicate online is in writing, so you have much time available than you have in a real life conversation, to think what to say first or what to reply, when you feel your mind blocked;
– playing the Game online is not only about approaching women, but it can get very cultural sometimes. I personally think that the online environment is something like a huge database of women from all over the world, that are waiting to be approached by men. So, imagine how it would be like to be a man from USA for example, that approaches women from France or China. It is a way to know more about other people, other countries, and to convince yourself that, when it comes to dating matters and sexual attraction, all women are the same…:)
So, this online Game sounds very good, isn’t it? And all that women ask in exchange is to be approached the right way…they don’t ask for too much, don’t they? 🙂
Of course, when you`ve reached a certain level of self-esteem and self-confidence, you can start to play a little in the real life too. In fact, you`ll see how you u*********sly start to approach women, and even better, how they start to approach you. (
But, as a rule, for your own sake, it is far better to start doing it online. It might spare you of some unpleasant experiences and save lots of precious time in your life. 😉
Rule no. 3 now:
DON`T TRY TO IMPRESS HER
What I mean by this rule is that, from what I`ve seen or I`ve personally experienced while I had no idea about what it takes to really date and have women, men tend to give up too fast in front of the women they like. And this giving up too fast consists of:
lots of compliments you are so beautiful/sexy/cute/sweet/angel fallen from the sky and so on, and also, lots ofslick hook-up lines that it is believed might have someeffect on her;
lots of money spent on expensive gifts, dinners, dates, trips and so on;
trying not to do anything that might.upset her;
emphasizing themacho, sex symbol look, if such look exists.
All in all, men tend to be (or just play) nice and/or macho with the women they like.
Wellwhat can I sayall the above are so sweet`n cutebut so useless in the same time.
The most important thing you must understand about this rule is that women (especially the hot ones) ARE BEING APPROACHED BY MEN ALL THE TIME. So, next time you meet a super-hot woman, when you want to compliment her, invite her to an expensive dinner or try to show-off in front of her that you look like Brad PittSTOP and remember that she had been hearing or seeing that for hundreds of times, that week only. So no matter what you want to say, propose or show to her (in this nice, macho manner, of course)…SHE ALREADY KNOWS IT, so it seems to her sopredictable and boring, something like afamiliar, sometimes annoying buzz that she doesn`t pay attention to anymore.
Yeah, I know how it`s like girls, it`s difficult sometimes to have sex appeal(
But seriously now, it`s natural and logic that kind of stuff not to impress her anymore, I mean, imagine that you would be a beautiful, sexy woman, getting approached by men all the time. How would you feel when you would have been told the same thing for hundreds of times per week? A thing that should be fun and exciting would get predictable, and you would feel like I want something else, immediately. I mean, you can’t eat the same dish everyday without getting sick of it at some point, right? (
WellI think it`s useless to say that this complimenting, slick, rich, nice, sex symbol guy formula IS TOTALLY WRONG. Instead of that, YOU should be the one that`s giving her that SOMETHING ELSE she`s so lusting for. You`ll see what`s that something else very soon. 🙂
Also, I don`t want to be misunderstood:
women LOVE compliments so I don`t suggest you shouldn`t compliment women anymore, I`m just saying that you must learn to compliment a woman in THE RIGHT WAY and just AT THE RIGHT TIME, not ALL THE TIME (we`ll talk a lot about this in future blog posts);
a certain financial status and a Brad Pitt look wouldn`t hurt anyone…but you must understand that THESE TWO ARE NOT absolutely necessary to have any woman you want. We`ll talk about that A LOT in future blog posts;
being (or just playing) nice and macho is cute, but this is not neccessarily the way to get in bed with her
and that`s what`s rule no. 4 about:
SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE
Maybe this is the most important rule and essential principle of the Dating Game and we’ll debate A LOT about it in future blog posts. What’s this actually all about is that:
If a woman feels sexually attracted to a man, she does, if she doesn’t, then…she doesn’t.
:)) Simple as that. I know it sounds kind of confusing and even hopeless now, but what you must learn to do to play the Dating Game the right way is to learn how to spark, increase and maintain as much as possible this incredible thing called sexual attraction, which developed and perfectioned in millions of years of evolution.
Basically, it is totally WRONG to think that a woman will feel attracted and have sex with you instead of other men, just because you compliment her tens of times per hour or just because you are the one that’s buying her the most expensive and best things. Maybe it seems right and logic to be like that, but in fact it isn’t, because sexual attraction has NOTHING TO DO with the regular logic of things. Of course, it has its logic too, but it is a little bit more….special, you’ll see 🙂
Again, don’t get me wrong, being a nice man and a good provider is much appreciated by women…but only if you want to be stuck forever in her “friend” zone or only if you want to be (on the long term) her sexually frustrated boyfriend or husband, that gets none or much less than he really deserves. So, being ONLY nice and a good provider is sweet, but NOT THE MAIN INGREDIENT to make her lust for you, sexually I mean.
To make myself better understood, let’s take you, for example: let”s say you are dating a woman that’s acting extra-nice and thoughtful with you, that’s buying you many expensive gifts, takes you out at the most expensive restaurants and in the most expensive trips. It is more likely that you’ll date her, even get in a relationship with her, but if these things she owns are everything she can offer, you’ll do it just because of them, not because you’ll dream about getting in bed with her, right? Also, you’ll have sex with her accordingly, isn’t it? 🙂
Also, have you ever met couples in which he talks to her and treats her very bad, cheats on her, even beats her, and (unbelievable, but true), she says things like:” I know he is a jerk, but I love him, I can’t live without him, I see him everywhere” and all that? While a nice, thoughtful guy like you is forever stuck in her friend zone, no mater how much you like her and no matter what you do? You’d be like “What the f..is happening here?” Well…
I’m not suggesting in any way that, to be successful with women, you should beat them or generally, treat them bad. NOT AT ALL. In contrary, I think women like that have very serious personality issues, so they need some Inner Game too. 🙂 When you’ll start to play the Game right and you’ll have the requiered level of self-confidence and self-esteem, you’ll see that lots of women (especially the hot ones), when they meet a REAL MAN, they are nothing what they look like, and when it comes to personality and character matters…they need to work VERY HARD on their Inner Game.
Back to our subject, what I want to stress out with this exagerrated but very eloquent example is that attraction is one of the most powerful feelings ever, and no matter what you say or do, if you manage to spark it in a woman’s heart and soul…there’s no way out 🙂 So, no matter if you are the type of guy that treats a woman the bad or the good way, the attraction must be handled THE RIGHT WAY. If you stop doing it…the magic will be all gone. In fact, that’s what’s the Dating Game all about: spark, increase and maintain the sexual attraction.
Now, here comes rule no. 5, very much related to rules no. 3 and 4:
5. WOMEN FEEL SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO THE PERSONALITY TRAITS OF A MAN, MORE THAN THEY ARE OF ANYTHING ELSE
Basically, that’s why:
– it is CRUCIAL to have a certain level of self-esteem and self-confidence, so that’s why you must work a lot on your Inner Game;
– to have sex with a beautiful woman, it doesn’t really matter if you are rich, poor, tall, short, fat, thin, midget or Brad Pitt;
– far more important than what you own or even what you say is HOW you are doing things while spending time with a woman: how you react, how you approach her, how do you use your body language…
The only way you can convince yourself that this is 100% the truth is to start doing it and to see that, while approaching a woman online for example, without her knowing who you are, what you own and without even seeing you, only by the messages you write, you can make her VERY interested and all into you. 🙂
Of course, you want to know how you can do that, and you want it now, right? 🙂
Well…we’ll talk more about this in future blog posts. 🙂 😉
Let’s go ahead to rule no. 6:
6. SHE’S A HUMAN BEING TOO, SO TREAT HER ACCORDINGLY
Another result of the giving-up-to-fast-in-front-of-women-they-like attitude that lots of men have is the thought that the woman in question is…a godess or an angel. So, basicaly, they look at her like she is a…godess, or angel. Most of the times, this is perceived by the woman that…she is treated like a circus, sexual freak and the man doing it is perceived as a…horny puppy humping her leg. 🙂
So next time you meet a woman you really like, STOP thinking that she is a godess, angel, sweet…thing and anything like that. Instead, do this…reverse psichology exercise:
Think of her that if she is beautiful this doesn’t mean she is perfect, so she certainly has some deffects too, maybe she has character, psichologycal or affective problems, maybe she is some mean, hysterical, hypocrite person, maybe she doesn’t have a very sharp sense of humor, maybe she is depressive, maybe she has…a virus or something :))
It might seem weird to think about such stuff while meeting a super-hot, beautiful woman but, at least at the beginning, it wil put you in the right state of mind, avoiding yo to get blocked by her very exciting and pleasant physical appearence and, the most important thing, it will make you behave and treat her like she really is: A NORMAL HUMAN BEING, just like you and the rest of us. Another great thing about treating a super-hot woman like that is that, from the “sea” of men that treat her all the same, which is the wrong way, you will appear as the first one in a long time that treats her NATURALY AND NORMAL. And that is perceived as SOMETHING ELSE, which is VERY GOOD. Of course, this is not everything, but it is a good start.
There are lots of women that love to be worshiped but, if you are not involved in some fetishist domina-slave stuff, you shouldn’t start like: “Hi, I’m Stacy, nice to meet you!” “Wow, you must be a godess, you are so hot and beautiful, I worship you!…” :)) Sounds silly, isn’t it? But that’s the attitude that in fact MANY MEN have in front of beautiful women.
I think it is useless to say that it is a HUGE advantage to be civilized, I mean, generaly, to be a gentleman. We’ll debate a little bit more about the gentleman stuff in a future blog-post.
Speaking of puppies humping women legs…here comes rule no. 7:
7. DON’T BE PUSHY AND DESPERATE
First of all, please note that I wrote BE not just ACT or SEEM. Women are experts in feeling a man that’s insecure and desperate, so if you just play that you aren’t pushy and desperate but in fact you are like that, you will mess everything up eventually.
Second of all, what I want to say with this rule is that…don’t be a puppy humping her leg. :)) To be more specific, DO NOT:
– call or contact her online 50 times per day;
– f***e her to say things or do things;
– spend with her more time than it is necessary;
– propose her from the first date;
-…and so on.
Instead of doing that, you should get busy with other things too, like your job, a hobby or just social activities. It is a huge advantage to be a busy man, who has other better things to do besides thinking and spending all his time with her. If you are not busy, you should at least seem like being at the beginning, but it is much better to BE than manipulating and lying to people, things which, on the long term, are not very effective and, worse than that, might hurt you eventually.
Women LOVE to have reasons to think about a man, and it is obvious that you can’t give to her such reasons if, in one way or another, you are right next to her every single moment of her life, right?
So, you should give her reasons to think about you and miss you. We’ll debate more on this in future blog posts.
On the other hand, as rule no. 6 stands, women (including beautiful and hot ones) are human beings too. So, although beauty is an advantage and certain things come or happen much easier because of it, it is not everything and beautiful people have problems too, just like anyone else in the world. So, if you ask a woman out and she sais no, you shouldn’t think immediately that she is rejecting you, you’re out of her league anyway, you don’t have any chance with her and so on. Maybe she is just busy with other stuff or maybe she just isn’t in the mood in that moment.
Very close related to the rejection you may get sometimes from women, comes rule no. 8:
8. DON’T RUN FROM IT, HAVE FUN WITH IT
In my blog post about the Inner Game I wrote a lot about this funny, but very powerful fear that most men have, I mean the fear of getting rejected by women. And this is why most men screw things up when it comes to romantic or sexual matters with women. In most cases, I think that if a man “gets some” from a hot, beautiful woman, it’s just something like a…fortunate accident. This because, somehow, the guy did something in the right way, but just because he is not paying any attention and because he feels nothing but emabarrased and frustrated about himself, next time, most probably, he’ll just screw things up again or he’ll do nothing.
:)) Yeah, guys, you can unlike this blog post as much as you want because of this one, but let’s face it, that’s the truth and…the truth hurts sometimes, doesn’t it? 🙂
It’s such a pitty, because guys don’t see the fun in the Game which, indeed, in fact is very fun. So, no matter if you’ll like or unlike this blog post, you should do something about it anyway. 😉
And what should you do?
All you have to do is stop worring so much about what would she say or think about you.
WOMEN LOVE THE MEN THEY CAN’T CONTROL.
Of course, no woman in the world would admit it, but…we’ll talk more about this in a future blog post.
So, instead of worring so much of what would she say or think about you, you should just relax for a second, be cool and just…have fun. 🙂 After all, it is great to spend time with a beautiful woman, right? 🙂 And if she happens to be more than just a beauty…well, that’s the jackpot in the Game! :)) If nothing happens…there’s no big deal, really. 🙂
To stop worring so much, think about the Game as it follows:
Imagine you are given the opportunity of gambling in a casino, with some money that the casino gives you. You can win…of course, you can loose…but even if you loose, it is with the casino’s money. So, what’s your actual loss, after all? 🙂
What I mean is that, of course that you’ll meet women that will refuse you sometimes. It happens even to the best of the best. The whole idea of the Game is to get refused lesser and lesser, but no matter how skilled and sexy you are, it will still happen from time to time.I mean, not just men, but even beautiful women get refused sometimes. I know I did it a few times…:P But when it happens to you, just think that:
– you will not become homeless or jobless;
– you will not get in prison for it;
– you will not get beaten, killed or eaten by nothing and nobody;
– you will not contact some deadly desease;
– you will not die because of it.
:)) Really, try it, and you’ll see. That’s life, which goes on, no matter what. I’m trying to say that, even if a woman sais “no” to you once…you’ll be just fine. 🙂
There are lots of women, and that’s what’s rule no. 9 all about:
9. APPROACH AS MANY WOMEN AS YOU CAN
In all the ways possible: online, in real life situations…any way available to you. The main idea with this rule is that a man must always have alternatives. I’m not talking about having relationships with more women in the same time, cheating or anything like that.
What I mean is that, from this point of view, the Game works just like the selling of products or services. If you promote your product or service to only one potential customer, there are huge chances not to sell it. But if you promote it to at least 100 people, you have good chances to sell it to at least 10 people, if you promote it to at least 1000 you may sell it to at least 100 people..and so on.
So, if you approach only one woman and get a “no” from her, you will feel like…catastrophe. 🙂 But if you approach 10 women, if you get a “no” from the first one, you know you have 9 other opportunities, if you approach 100 women and get a “no” from one of them, you know you have the other 99 opportunities…and so on.
It is all about being in the right state of mind, which must be always positive. 😉
And, finally, rule no. 10 is:
10. DO NOT TRY TO HAVE ALL THE WOMEN
Maybe you’ve noticed that I’m always talking about dating and having the women you WANT, not ALL the women. I mean, c’mon, dude, leave some for the rest of us!…:))
When you’ll start playing the Game the right way, you’ll see the life and the Game in a totally different way, including that some women, no matter how hot they are, do not worth your attenrion, not even for sex. And you’ll discover about yourself a brand new, awesome thing: wow, you are picky! 🙂
Basically, these are the rules of the Game…something like a Decalogue for you. 🙂 As you could see, some of them are not just rules but esential principles you must comply with and get guided by while playing the Game.
We’ll talk more about some of these principles in future blog posts.
Until then…don’t worry, and be happy. 🙂 😉